I think we can all agree that having a positive mindset could benefit everyone. I mean, how great does it sound to have all your burdens transformed into blessings? I want you to know that a positive mindset is accessible to everyone. You can’t change the reality of these burdens, but changing your mindset around them offers a gateway to joy.
To me, a mindset is a way of thinking. It’s tied to your belief systems, your values, and your past. Having a positive mindset allows you to deal with your problems and conflicts more effectively. Your mindset can determine how much joy you have in your life and learning to control it is a precious skill.
I don’t think that I realized the impact that my mindset had on my personal and professional life until I was faced with a tremendous amount of adversity in my adulthood. I guess I never really saw the need to tap into my mindset until I was struggling. Growing up, I emulated my friends and my parents and I just reflected their mindsets and beliefs. Passively and unconsciously, I just did what my family did and thought how they thought.
When I think about it, the first time I adopted a mindset of positivity was as a young girl. My parents were divorced when I was a baby and my mother remarried. I had almost no contact with my biological father for my entire childhood. For some reason, I told myself that my biological father didn’t contact me because it was truly the best thing for me. I made myself believe that he purposely allowed another man to take his place as my father. No one fed me this line, and I had no knowledge of him or his character. I simply decided that he had my best interest in mind.
I so easily could have decided that he left me and didn’t want me, or that I wasn’t good enough for him. Don’t you agree that negativity is sometimes easier because it allows us to be the victim and takes the fault away from ourselves? Without realizing it, I didn’t let those negative thoughts in and I lived a fulfilled childhood because of it. At a young age, I subconsciously shifted my mindset to preserve my emotional well being… I would say it was almost natural, or instinctual. As I’ve grown older, I’ve been able to become more deliberate with my mindset. Now, I find myself instinctually leaning towards negativity and I have to put in the work to shine the light.
My mindset philosophy is rooted in gratitude. This is something that takes practice and consistency. I believe that gratitude is important because when you’re thankful for what you have, you will always have enough. If you zoom out and dig deep we are all so much more privileged and capable than we realize. Mindset is all about getting out of your head, ditching the victim mentality (I’m not saying it’s easy), and looking at the big picture.
I think we can all agree that having a positive mindset could benefit everyone. I mean, how great does it sound to have all your burdens transformed into blessings? I want you to know that a positive mindset is also accessible to everyone. You can’t change the reality of these burdens, but changing your mindset around them offers a gateway to joy.
During the Coronavirus pandemic, my kids are home from school, my business was forced to close, and there is a lot of negativity everywhere I turn. However, I have chosen to treat this as a sacred pause to work on areas of my business that otherwise get pushed to the backburner; I know that I can be productive in other ways that add immense value to my life even in a devastating time. A positive mindset grounds me so that I can be strategic about my decisions rather than acting irrationally.
I’m no mindset expert but I am sharing my experience with you simply because this is the most valuable tool in my life. Comment below any questions you may have about mindset and I’d love to talk to you more about it. Thank you so much for reading.